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Institute Testimonials
Dear
Fred,
Happy New year! I hope all is well with you
and your family.
I wanted to share one of many example's of
the difference you make. Thank you for coming
to our school, you were very well received.
Last night at a book group for PRS a woman who
attended your lecture raved about the
difference your work made in her life. She said
that after she did the homework about
entitlement and necessities, there was a
complete turn around with her kids and it
stuck!
That's all for now,
Wendi
Dear Fred,
A most sincere and heartfelt thank you for the
recent two trainings held at Pacific Ridge. My
husband, Hubert, and I are very grateful to you
for sharing your tools, experience and
knowledge. For us, the timing was perfect. I
had been looking for answers and alternatives
to our home issues, which certainly weren't
healthy, harmonious or effective. We found the
exercises and homework valuable and
helpful.
We have already tried a few of your techniques
and so far, so good. We will keep working on
ourselves, our attitudes, responses and will
refer to the notes, often, I am sure.
You mentioned that you would send us
information about allowances for children. We
would appreciate receiving that
information.
We intend to look at the products available on
the website, so that we can continue educating
ourselves.
Sincerely,
Catherine
Catherine Mowbray Lorenz
Communication Tools for Success
San Diego, California, USA
760.964.9296
Thanks for the excellent
workshop. You said we could email you if
we wanted more information on flying
united. I'm the task manager in the house
and quite structured and overall our kids
are doing well. My husband is very spur
of the moment, not structured, not time
sensitive, and much more the creative
hang loose type. The kids usually don't
play us off each other, but he and I will
get into arguments about how rigidly to
follow structured rules. Since I'm around
more, the house is usually very
structured, but my husband feels that I'm
creating too much stress in the family by
insisting on structured times when he is
around (which I will admit that my
husband, 14 yr old daughter, and 12 year
old son all prefer to have things more
relaxed). We both agree that this system
has helped our daughter a lot, but both
of us worry that our son struggles with
capability issues because of the
structure at times. Could you email me
the flying united handouts that you did
not get to?
Also, they were out of the parent quiz after
the meeting. Could you send me a document with
that too? Thanks again.
Thank you for the good information. Yes, you
had many interested parents last night, but we
all need our reminders and new techniques, and
yes again, kids change. Another parent reminded
me of another handout I didn't have: the parent
quiz.
Thanks,
Jan
Hi Fred-
My husband and I were lucky enough to see your
presentation last night at Pacific Ridge. (We
were the ones sitting in the front row right in
front of you!) We were so impressed with your
comments... I personally went away feeling very
hopeful and empowered. I would like my life at
home to be more positive and my home to be a
place where family members could feel safer. I
am dealing with a 14 year old daughter who is
very challenging to us...
Could you please forward the materials from the
first presentation you made? We missed it. I am
very interested in the quiz that you mentioned
yesterday. Also, please forward information 1)
regarding allowance; 2) flying United and my
question would be 3) how do you deal with a
child who's room ALWAYS looks like a hurricane
hit it?
Thank you again for a most interesting evening.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Ellen Osinski
Hi Mr. Becker,
I just attended your presentation at Pacific
Ridge School and very much enjoyed it. I've
heard you speak several other times, but it
really helps to have a refresher course. Also,
I was glad that my husband had the opportunity
to hear your techniques.
You didn't get a chance to go over allowance
and chores and I would like some information on
what you recommend. Could you please send me
your information?
Also, I have one quick question about your
technique for solving sibling fights. After you
send the kids outside to "work it out", what do
you do when one child says "he's" solved the
problem and he's ready to come back in, but the
other one, (his younger sister) is still upset
and not satisfied with the resolution? I've
tried sending them both back outside, but the
conflict just escalates. Do they both need to
agree on a resolution, or is it okay to have
them disagree and still mad at each other, as
long as they don't fight?
Thanks for your help.
Brenda Gueirn
Mr. Becker,
Thank you for your encouraging talk tonight.
While your points may seem to be common sense
(coming as the happy child of solid,
no-nonsense Midwest parents), our parent
response certainly does get mixed up with
emotion, and strays from the ideal reaction.
Unfortunately I was unable to attend your first
talk, but certainly would appreciate the
handouts from that evening. Based on my notes
from tonight, those would include the homework
sheets, and the privilege vs. entitlement.
I would also like your sheets regarding
allowances and united parenting.
Again thank you for the good information, and I
look forward to refining our parenting style
for the better. I'll keep you posted, probably
more good stories from our 10-year old, rather
than our 14-year old; however, we couldn't ask
for much more or better from either girl at
this point. We aim to keep it that way.
Thank you for sharing your experience to help
parents and children.
Jan Peters
Dear Fred,
I saw you speak at ECC near the
end of the school year and was really
moved and motivated by your presentation.
I just don't think enough people have
gotten the chance to hear you speak. I am
interested in bringing your voice and
expertise to a much wider audience if you
are interested. I have a real passion for
sharing positive information especially
as it relates to kids. I currently own a
preschool but have three children of my
own. One of my children is going to
middle school this year in Encinitas. I
just thought you were a totally dynamic
speaker. You have something special. I
think that there are several ways we
could get your message out BIG if you
wanted to. I totally see you on OPRAH.
There are just some things we would need
to expand on. (web site, books, ..etc..)
I am really interested in marketing the
whole Becker Institute. I would
definitely start by putting together
several local hosting groups in
Encinitas. Please let me know if you are
interested in getting your message out
there.
I think you ROCK and I would like to help you
share your message.
Thanks,
Heather Addy Crider
Hi Fred, thank you for your
e-mail. We have been using lots of the
tools you suggested and feel an
improvement overall already! We both are
working on the positive (no
negatives)…it’s rather refreshing for me!
I did find myself “helping” her a few
times and then realized I was telling her
what she should be doing…I later
apologized to Ashley – it’s hard for me
to keep quiet (when I think I’m actually
helping but now realize it’s not) but I
will get there! Amazing to me, I gave her
a hug one day and the next day she ASKED
for a hug!! It made me ask myself when
did I STOP doing this with her – just
interesting to me that I think I’m
positive, loving, etc., but it’s like
this huge barrier had been created
between us and just in this little bit of
time I do feel like …I guess it’s mainly
that the communication is coming back or
rather that Ashley feels she can talk to
us again and I feel like I don’t have to
be “mean”/negative!
Also, had another one of her
didn’t take her meds/drank – wasn’t sure
what to do and originally thought she
didn’t have her meds with her when she
was staying at someone else’s house. So
gave her the What Happened sheet to
complete, have not yet discussed it with
her – actually didn’t realize she had
drank until she completed the sheet, so I
found that interesting, and she put as
the solution to not drink
again…humm..that would be great but I
think her answer is just that – a way to
“satisfy” her parents?
We are still at the beginning
stages of making a plan and hope to
complete by the end of this
week!!
Thank you again Fred, both Dick
& I are implementing your suggestions
and I have to say the “schedule” has been
more challenging than expected, but that
has been really good for Dick &
myself already!!
Regards,
Mary J
Hello Fred,
I am one of the many you spoke
with today at Pacific Rim Elementary and
really got a lot out of your
presentation. I had to share with you my
experience this afternoon. My three boys
got home from school and we all made a
snack together chatting. They sat down
with their popcorn and two of them
immediately started arguing over the
comics section of the newspaper. I calmly
said that they needed to go outside and
resolve this. They looked confused and I
repeated the same words. As the younger
boys were heading out the door, my
non-involved son said “that is a really
great idea!”
Next thing I know they are back
and I repeated “You need to go outside to
resolve this between yourselves.” Before
they even got to the front door, they had
resolved it and were back sharing the
comics between them munching on popcorn.
Now, I know this is not instantaneous,
but that felt pretty darn good. I will
continue to implement and actually look
forward to the next argument so we can
try this again. Maybe I can even get them
all the way outside next
time.
I thank you for your suggestions
and want you to know that one family will
definitely be better off with your
reminders of positive energy and
firmness.
With Sincere Thanks,
Julie Vaughn
Hi
My husband and I attended a
series by Fred Becker several years ago
in Vista, California. At that time, our
boys were only 4 and 1, and though we
found the information very informative,
we really weren’t able to utilize as much
of it as we would have liked due to their
ages. HOWEVER, the boys are now 8 and 5,
and we are having a lot of difficulty
with our 8 year old. We are dealing with
issues of disrespect, lack of personal
responsibility, poor sportsmanship and
other qualities we DO NOT want to see as
he grows into his teenage
years.
We would be VERY interested in
attending another workshop, however the
problem is that a little over 2 years
ago, we moved to Texas. The boys and I
will be coming to California to visit the
first 2 weeks of August. Are there ANY
workshops planned during that time in the
San Diego area?? If not, does Fred EVER
do a personal session with parents? I am
truly at my wits end and my husband and I
were so impressed by Fred, we REALLY hope
there is something we can work
out.
Thank you so much,
Lisa Molkenbuhr
Mrs. Hause,
I just wanted to thank you for the opportunity
to attend Mr. Becker's workshops these past
weeks. I have already seen a calming change at
home with the girls, the family and our
marriage. THANK YOU!!!
Grace
I am the Mentor mom for this
MOPS group. I have raised our four
children and our foster granddaughter who
is now 19 years old. We have 13
grandchildren, and I did licensed day
care in our home for 32 years. I feel you
are right on, and provide a needed voice
and coach for today’s families. Thank
You!
Sherry
When parenting styles vary so
much between parents how can values be
changed and styles blended to create one
style?
Crystal
You were amazing. Thank you so
much. God has used you to open my eyes in
so many ways with my son and I am forever
grateful
Jane
I am a parent of a four year old
and a second grade teacher. Your talk
confirmed what we are going at home and
how I run my classroom. Thank you so
much! I wish all my friends and students
parents could get this
message.
Jenn
I really enjoyed this
presentation. I have so many questions
about my son who was diagnosed with ODD
and medication is an
issue
Jennifer
I learned some tools to make
life with my seven year old grand
daughter much easier to live
with.
Margaret
I liked the way the information
was presented and explained. Basic and
logical. A fairlt lean class, which is to
the point. This is appreciated because
most classes seem to be padded with lots
of useless “fluff”.
Sara
Outstanding presentation, the
basis are so real, very honest and
straight forward. This should be a
mandatory class for all new
parents.
Diana
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!
I appreciate your clear, concise
presentation. Not only did everything you
said hit home and make sense but you also
gave us lots of tools to work with. I
know my family will all benefit from what
I have learned
today.
Kimberly
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